Unveiling the Power to Transform Beliefs

woman learning why we believe things that don't serve us

Hello, it’s Dr. Rebecca Cardona here with Fear Nothing Coaching, and I’m thrilled to dive into a crucial topic today: why do we hold onto beliefs that don’t serve us? In this post, we’ll explore the roots of these beliefs and shed light on why they persist.

The Influence of Survival Instincts

Why is it that we sometimes cling to beliefs that seem to hinder our personal growth and well-being? Well, it all boils down to our innate survival instincts. We do what we know, and we do it repeatedly until we learn something new. This behavior is deeply rooted in the primitive part of our brain, which is dedicated to securing our survival.

Survival and Its Many Facets

Survival, in this context, encompasses a spectrum of needs and desires, including love, belonging, safety, and security. These fundamental aspects shape our beliefs and behaviors. Let’s break it down:

  • Love and Belonging: We all yearn to be loved and to belong, whether it’s within a family, a community, or in personal and professional relationships.
  • Safety and Security: These are essential for our survival. They manifest in the form of access to food, shelter, and housing, which are directly linked to our ability to secure and maintain an income.

The Wiring of Survival-Based Beliefs

Our brains are remarkable but often automatic in their pursuit of ensuring our survival. As a result, we form beliefs with the genuine intention of securing our existence. However, these beliefs can inadvertently impact our quality of life and well-being.

Challenging Beliefs That No Longer Serve You

If you find yourself with beliefs that hinder your personal growth and well-being, remember this: You have the power to change them. Give yourself the permission to challenge these beliefs. Are they genuinely true? It might feel uncomfortable and unfamiliar, but it’s a crucial step toward your personal growth.

The Influence of External Expectations

In today’s world, we are bombarded with images and expectations about how we should look, what we should achieve, and how we should perform. This constant exposure can lead the brain to interpret these ideals as essential for survival. If we don’t meet these standards, we might fear rejection or failure.

Your Superpower: Controlling Your Thoughts

The good news is that you hold a superpower: the ability to control and change your thoughts. You can recode your beliefs, reshape your mindset, and free yourself from thoughts that no longer serve you or the people you care about. Remember, you can’t control others, but you have absolute control over your own thoughts.


As we wrap up this post, I leave you with this empowering message: If you have beliefs that no longer serve your well-being, challenge and change them. You possess the incredible ability to control and recode your thoughts, paving the way for personal growth and a more fulfilling life.

Stay tuned for my next post, where we’ll dive into practical tips for dealing with beliefs that no longer serve you.